The holiday season is upon us! You probably have a never-ending list of things you hope to accomplish or experience before the New Year. I know for me that the holidays can be pretty busy. I have a list of things that need to be done in time for Christmas. It might just be the perfectionist in me, but I have a mental list going of things that I need to do in order to have the “perfect” Christmas. Lately, I have found myself finding activities (or kids show) for my little one to do in order to keep him busy while I do something on that list.
Then one day as I was working on one of those things on my list, I suddenly had a thought that stopped me in my tracks!
I am so blessed to be able to stay home with my son! There was nothing more that I wanted when I found out I was pregnant. I wanted to be there for all his milestones, to watch him grow, and to be able to be the one to teach him.
I do not want to waste this time with busyness.
I immediately stopped what I was doing and grabbed a stack of books and sat down with my son and read him some of the Christmas books we picked up from the local library. We spent the rest of the afternoon reading, laughing, snacking, and pointing at the decorations and lights on the Christmas tree.
It can be so easy to get caught up in the busyness of the holiday season (or even just life in general!)
Yes, there are still a million things on my to-do list. I still do my best to keep up with a lot of it, but I don’t want to go through my life and realize that all I accomplished was marking things off my to-do list. I don’t want my son to grow up and remember me as always being busy. Babies grow up so quickly, you guys! They DO NOT stay little for long. I don’t want to look up from what I’m doing one day and realize that my son has grown up and I completely missed it!
What about you? Are you so busy that life is passing you by and all you can say you did was cross things off your list? When was the last time you were just present?
Don’t know where to start?
Here are a few tips to being present.
- Learn to say “NO!” – You have to learn to say no to some things. It can be difficult, I know. I have trouble saying no to things. I feel like I should be able to do all the things! But if I am doing all the things, then I do not have time for those who are most important to me.
- Learn to Let Go – You have to learn to let some things go. I struggle with this when it comes to my house. I feel like I have to be constantly cleaning. I don’t even live in that huge of a house. I am learning to just let go occasionally. The dishes don’t ALWAYS need to be washed right after we eat. Sometimes that is the best time to just sit in the living room and play with my son. You need to learn that some things can just wait because your child is not going to wait to grow up.
- Learn to Clear your Mind of the Busyness – I have just recently discovered the process of “brain dumping”. Basically you take all those thoughts you have in your mind and get them OUT!
- To do this, you will need a paper (or two), a pen, and a timer. I started with 5 minutes because I did not think that I would be able to sit and write for that long (I ended up taking about 10 minutes).
- Set your timer and just start writing. Write anything and everything that comes to mind. Don’t stop writing until the timer stops. You will probably be surprised at how many things you have taking up space in your mind.
- I try to make this a daily habit. It really allows me to clear my mind so I can really be present and not just sitting there thinking about all the things in my mind.
I hope these tips will help you to not get caught up in the busyness of the holiday season, but to be able to actually be present and enjoy the season with your loved one. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to write them in the comments or even send me an email! I hope you have a Merry Christmas!